Krischelle Stuess claims she ignored all the "red flags" in her relationship with Justin Hartley.

When I first heard Krischelle Stewes on "Selling Sunset" talk about being "blindsided" by her ex-husband Justin Hartley, I was heartbroken.

If you missed this particular moment on reality TV, Stuess said at the time that Hartley filed for divorce unannounced and informed her via text message. If that is all there is to it, it is far from exemplary behavior.

E! News published an exclusive excerpt from the TV star's forthcoming memoir, Under Construction (opens in new tab), in which she details what happened behind the scenes. Honestly, it all sounds really upsetting, but we're glad she feels she made the right decision for herself after her marriage ended.

"Then there was Justin, who I met in 2013. 'We hit it off right away and from day one I could hardly stay away. I fell in love immediately and thought he was hung over the moon."

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Their marriage, however, did not turn out to be the fairy tale of growing old together that Stauss had hoped. She was distraught after the sudden filing for divorce, but now recognizes that all this suffering was a blessing in disguise.

"The last thing I want to do is rehash old hurts, but now that I am far away from it, I see that what happened was a gift," she continued.

"Now I understand more clearly how I deserve to be treated. When someone is in love, it is difficult to convince that person that the relationship is not right. Even if he is waving red flags around you like a bullfighter, you are the woman strutting right by him, oblivious to the impending danger. You are distracted, in your own world, and you don't listen."

Stausee hinted that Hartley's behavior was ultimately far from loving. Shortly after the divorce," she wrote, "I fell in love with another love bomber," referring to Keo Motsepe, implying that Hartley had love bombed her as well.

According to Dictionary.com, "Love bombing is showing excessive affection or interest in a person as a way of manipulating them in a relationship," which is a rather serious accusation.