This is a royal conundrum. Those who marry into the royal family have no security protection until they are officially married, yet the moment the public learns that they are dating a member of the family, they are subjected to suffocating (and sometimes frightening) attention.

Both Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle have experienced this, and the issue goes back to Princess Diana in 1981. (The engagements of Prince William and Kate, Prince Harry and Meghan, and Prince Charles and Princess Diana all averaged about five months.)

Kate Middleton began experiencing the suffocation of being a "royal girlfriend" in the early 2000s, so much so that her then-boyfriend William had panic buttons installed in her apartment during their relationship, Tina Brown writes in her new book, The Palace Papers. The panic button was connected to the local police and was installed because a. Kate was not entitled to official protection from the Palace until she married William (which did not happen until 2011), and b. the press intrusion was so severe that it was justified. Although he did not receive official protection, Brown writes that he sometimes received support from Prince Charles' former communications director, Paddy Harverson.

"As befitting Kate's character, his requests for intervention were rare and always began with the words, 'I don't want to cause a scene, but ......' '," he would begin with the words, "I don't want to make a scene. Brown writes." William reportedly arranged for a panic button to be installed in her apartment to the local police station to protect her from the constant threat of break-ins."

The security system was also used by the police to protect the homeowner.

This lack of security is why Harry is still very passionate today and why the prince wanted to marry Meghan "as soon as possible," according to Brown (from the Mirror). Harry famously advised his brother William to marry slowly, but wanted police protection for his girlfriend. "To sum up Harry's response to his brother's concerns: 'The best way to protect her is to get married as soon as possible.'

(In contrast to William and Kate's decade-long courtship, Harry and Meghan met and married within two years.)

Now that Harry and Meghan have left office, security concerns continue to plague the Sussex family, but hopefully a solution is emerging that will allow Harry, and hopefully his other family members, to attend the Platinum Jubilee next month.